長大后，才懂歸根是最暖的深情

前幾天整理老照片，翻到一張泛黃的畢業(yè)照。那時候我們都還穿著寬大的校服，眼里憋著一股要闖遍天下的勁兒，互相拍著肩膀說：“以后要去大城市，要出人頭地，誰也別回頭看誰。”

如今再看這張照片，突然就笑了。原來人生這趟旅程，真應了那句老話：流水爭先靠山海，落花歸根是深情。我們當年拼了命想逃離的故鄉(xiāng)，想擺脫的嘮叨，最后都成了回不去的舊時光；而那些曾經(jīng)以為遙不可及的“山海”，闖過了才懂，心里最軟的地方，永遠留給了歸根的“落花”。

一、年少時，我們都想做奔涌的流水

十八歲那年，我和發(fā)小小琳坐在村口的老槐樹下，對著奔流的河水發(fā)誓：“這輩子絕不留在小縣城，要去看外面的山海，要活成別人羨慕的樣子。”

那時候的我們，總覺得故鄉(xiāng)是座“圍城”，困住了我們的夢想。嫌棄爸媽管得寬，嫌棄小鎮(zhèn)的節(jié)奏慢，嫌棄身邊的人沒有“上進心”。每天背著書包路過村口的小河，都覺得這水太緩，緩得讓人心里發(fā)慌，恨不得立刻變成奔涌的流水，沖過崇山峻嶺，奔向遼闊大海。

為了“爭先”，我們拼命學習，考上了外地的大學。拿到錄取通知書那天，爸媽比我還激動，媽連夜給我收拾行李，往包里塞了又塞：“到了那邊好好吃飯，別不舍得；受了委屈就打電話，家里永遠是你的后盾；沒事別總熬夜，對身體不好……”

那時候我嫌她啰嗦，一把拉過行李箱，頭也不回地說：“知道了知道了，我都這么大了，你就別操心了。”

現(xiàn)在想想，那時候的我們，就像村口那條小河里的流水，一心想著向前沖，想著越過障礙，想著去更大的世界看看。我們以為“爭先”是人生的全部意義，卻忘了流水之所以能奔涌，靠的是山海的包容；而我們之所以能勇敢闖蕩，靠的是家人的深情。

剛到大城市的第一年，一切都新鮮又艱難。擠早高峰的地鐵，吃廉價的快餐，加班到深夜看著空無一人的街道，偶爾生病獨自去醫(yī)院，那種孤獨感，像潮水一樣把人淹沒。

那時候，我最想念的，不是大城市的繁華，而是家里的熱乎飯，是媽一句“回來吧，家里有飯吃”，是爸默默塞給我的零花錢。

我開始明白，那些我們當年拼命想逃離的“瑣碎”，其實是支撐我們走過風雨的底氣。就像流水需要山海的滋養(yǎng)，我們在外打拼的每一步，都藏著家人默默的付出。

二、長大后，才懂歸根是最暖的深情

去年夏天，我因為長期加班，突然暈倒在公司。醒來時，已經(jīng)躺在醫(yī)院的病床上，爸媽就守在床邊，眼睛熬得通紅。

媽拉著我的手，一邊抹眼淚一邊說：“早跟你說別太累了，你就是不聽。錢賺多少是夠啊，身體才是最重要的。”

爸站在一旁，沉默著，卻悄悄往我枕頭下塞了一張銀行卡，低聲說：“不夠用就說，別硬扛。家里一切都好，你安心養(yǎng)病。”

那一刻，我看著他們鬢角的白發(fā)，看著他們略顯佝僂的背影，突然淚崩了。

原來，我們在外爭強好勝，拼命成為“流水”，跨越山海，闖出名堂，最終的目的，不過是讓家人過上好日子。可當我們真正累了、病了、倦了，能給我們兜底的，永遠是那個叫做“家”的地方；能無條件接納我們的，永遠是那些深愛我們的家人。

從那以后，我開始放慢腳步，不再盲目追求“爭先”，而是學會了“歸根”。

每個月，我都會抽時間回家看看。不再是匆匆待幾小時就走，而是陪爸媽吃一頓完整的晚飯，聽媽嘮叨家里的瑣事，看爸坐在院子里抽煙聊天，幫他們做做飯，洗洗衣服，散散步。

每次回家，媽都會把我的行李箱塞得滿滿當當。自家種的蔬菜、曬的干菜、蒸的饅頭，http://m.xatlq.com/mnews/20752.shtml
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http://m.gngzkj.com/mnews/57061.shtml我們這一生，都在“向外走”和“往回走”之間徘徊。向外走，是為了夢想，為了成長，為了成為更好的自己；往回走，是為了初心，為了親情，為了找回最真實的自己。
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http://m.youme512.com/mnews/49503.shtml還有她親手做的臘肉，一樣不落。她會一邊往包里塞一邊說：“這些都是家里的味道，你在外面吃不到。到了家趕緊吃，別放壞了。”

爸則會默默給我加滿油箱，反復叮囑：“開車慢點，注意安全；到了給我發(fā)個消息，別讓我們擔心。”

這時候我才發(fā)現(xiàn)，流水爭先靠山海，是為了有能力守護身后的家；落花歸根是深情，是因為家永遠是最溫暖的港灣。

三、人生最好的狀態(tài)：闖過山海，不忘歸根

前幾天和小琳聊天，她現(xiàn)在是一家公司的部門主管，在外人眼里光鮮亮麗，可她卻說：“我現(xiàn)在最想做的，就是回縣城開一家小店，守著爸媽，過著慢日子。”

她說，當年我們都想做奔涌的流水，去征服山海，可走得越遠，越發(fā)現(xiàn)，人生最珍貴的，不是站在多高的位置，而是身邊有愛的人，有可以回去的家。

其實，人生就像村口那條小河。

小時候，我們盼著變成流水，越過障礙，奔向遠方；長大后，我們變成了奔涌的流水，闖過崇山峻嶺，看過世間繁華；而到了一定年紀，我們會變成“落花”，歸根守土，回到最開始的地方。

流水爭先靠山海，是我們對夢想的執(zhí)著，是年輕人的熱血與勇氣；落花歸根是深情，是我們對親情的珍惜，是成年人的通透與溫暖。

我們不必糾結(jié)“要不要爭先”，也不必遺憾“要不要歸根”。因為這兩者從來不是對立的。

奔涌的流水，因為有山海的滋養(yǎng)，才能走得更遠；歸根的落花，因為有流水的奔赴，才更顯深情。

就像我們的人生，向外闖，是為了給家人更好的生活；向內(nèi)守，是為了不辜負家人的深情。

今年清明，我又回了一趟老家。站在村口的老槐樹下，看著那條小河依舊奔流不息，看著遠處的青山連綿起伏，突然覺得無比心安。

我知道，無論我走多遠，無論我在外經(jīng)歷了什么，只要回頭，就能看到家門口那盞亮著的燈，就能聽到爸媽熟悉的嘮叨。

那是流水奔涌的方向，也是落花歸根的深情。

愿我們都能勇敢地做奔涌的流水，去征服屬于自己的山海；也愿我們都能溫柔地做歸根的落花，永遠守住心里最暖的家。